Creating Holiday Sanctuaries: Nurturing Kids' Sense of Security through their 4th House on Natal Chart

I recently finished a blog on the Venus placement and your child’s specific gift language which will add to their self-esteem and personal interests. This busy and exhausting time of year can leave not just the adults depleted but also the children. And I wonder if we care to notice how it affects them. If you’re curious, let’s dive into how the constant activities and gatherings affect your child based on their personal natal chart aka the horoscope. (And no- the horoscope is not the blurb you read in the paper about the sun sign - if you have ever gotten a personal reading from yours truly you know I spend a small amount of time on the sun sign!)

Check out the Natal Chart below. I’ve highlighted the 4th house as well as the zodiac on the ‘cusp’ or door to the 4th house. This chart is a great example because although it appears AQUARIUS is on the cusp of the 4th house, it actually is just after the entry point aka cusp of the 4th house. Capricorn is the Zodiac prior to Aquarius so the cusp, or entry point, of 4th house is actually Capricorn (in the final degree).

Once you find your child’s Zodiac on their 4th house you can read on to see how they feel best during the holidays with all the hustle and bustle of the holidays which is being emphasized by the Cancer full moon (read part 1 here).

Click here to grab your child’s chart, take a screenshot then read on below!

First let’s understand the 4th house - the home, family, roots, and the innermost core of one's being. When a zodiac sign is on the cusp of this house, it can influence the individual's approach to their private life, home environment, and emotional foundations. Here's a brief overview of each zodiac sign on the cusp of the 4th house:

Aries on the 4th House Cusp

There might be a sense of restlessness at home, a desire for action or change within the domestic sphere. There could be a focus on independence in creating one's living space or a dynamic, energetic atmosphere within the family environment.

What this means for the holidays: They prefer to have a voice in how family matters are organized. They are born leaders when it comes to home and when have the ability to lead with assertiveness, they feel safe. One way this can be done during the holidays is to get their insight on ‘how to’ best do a family gathering or function. 

Taurus on the 4th House Cusp

There's a strong emphasis on creating a stable, comfortable, and secure home environment. Individuals may prioritize material comforts, possess a deep connection to their roots, and exhibit a love for traditional family values.

What this means for the holidays: Comfort is key here. If you are going on many outings or visiting a lot of family bring things that help them feel cozy in someone else’s home. This could be their fave blanket or if a teen, their art book if they like to doodle in the safety of their home. During visits they may also like to help relatives in the kitchen or decorate a tree - anything that adds to the stableness and comfort of a home. 

Gemini on the 4th House Cusp

Communication and mental stimulation might be key elements in the home environment. There could be a lot of chatter, intellectual pursuits, and a need for variety within the family dynamics. Adaptability might be a common trait here.

What this means for the holidays: Play games! Allow fun time to sit around roasting marshmallows and being mentally stimulated through talks, jokes, and sharing stories. 

Cancer on the 4th House Cusp

This is the natural placement for Cancer, which is associated with home and family. There's a deep emotional connection to one's roots, a strong nurturing instinct, and a desire for security and comfort within the home. Family ties are usually very significant.

What this means for the holidays: Cancer naturally rules the 4th house so it embodies of what a home should be - inviting, warm, and SAFE. If feeling pressured to go to relatives where there is chaos and arguments, keep in mind your child may not feel well at all - can manifest stomach aches. 

Leo on the 4th House Cusp

There might be a desire to make the home a place of creativity, self-expression, and a showcase of one's achievements. The individual may seek recognition and appreciation within the family and might take on a leadership role in the household.

What this means for the holidays: Leo is about fun and kids and creativity! Keep it FUN! They will love this and cherish these memories forever. If you go to a relatives where they can’t move or touch anything in the home they are going to feel stifled and not really experience the joy of the holidays. 

Virgo on the 4th House Cusp

Attention to detail, organization, and a practical approach to the home life characterize this placement. There might be a focus on health, cleanliness, and efficiency in the household, aiming for a harmonious and functional environment.

What this means for the holidays: Virgo is all about service. Allow them to serve to their capacity whether it’s passing napkins out if very young, or being allowed to research a recipe and cook and meal prep. The may even have some great tips on how to organize events! 

Libra on the 4th House Cusp

Harmony and balance are important in the home. There might be a strong emphasis on creating a peaceful and aesthetically pleasing environment. Relationships within the family might be crucial, and diplomacy is valued in dealing with domestic matters.

What this means for the holidays: Libra is all about harmony and peace. Be prepare to have a very upset child or teen who is forced to experience a lot of chaos and disharmony during the holidays which we all know can definitely happen during this time of year. 

Scorpio on the 4th House Cusp

There's a depth of emotions and intensity within the home. Privacy might be highly valued, and there could be a sense of mystery or secrecy surrounding family matters. Transformative experiences might shape the domestic environment.

What this means for the holidays: Scorpios prefer privacy so if you have a teen be wary of a side eye or the infamous Scorpio stare if you share their private life with all their cousins, aunts, and uncles at the next family gathering. Understand these sensitive souls are very receptive to energy and if they do not like being around a relative to let them know you understand and help them to create boundaries. 

Sagittarius on the 4th House Cusp

Exploration, adventure, and a quest for knowledge might influence the home environment. There might be an openness to diverse cultures, beliefs, and philosophies within the family dynamic.

What this means for the holidays: Expansion! Road trips! This kid may love an adventure for the holidays or the ability to play hard and seek to be around the older relatives so they can rub elbows with the wise!

Capricorn on the 4th House Cusp

There's a focus on structure, responsibility, and traditional values within the home. Building a secure and stable foundation for the family is important, and there might be an emphasis on achieving goals in the domestic sphere.

What this means for the holidays: Will need a lot of warmth and praise! If you take them to gatherings and events where they are constantly being told what to do and not being thanked this is going to be a very dull and sad time for them. They take family matters very seriously so help them to lighten up and give them praise if they want to take the reigns to lead other family members to ‘be serious.’ In other words, help them to relax. 

Aquarius on the 4th House Cusp

Unconventional and innovative approaches to home life might be present. There could be an emphasis on individuality, unique family dynamics, and a sense of freedom within the household.

What this means for the holidays: Something different and outside the typical may appeal to this one. Also, humanitarian work may appeal to them and make the holidays have more significance. If you’re doing family photos, they will not appreciate if they have to wear exactly what you tell them!

Pisces on the 4th House Cusp

Sensitivity, empathy, and a dreamy quality might characterize the home environment. There might be a strong spiritual or artistic influence, and boundaries between family members might be fluid or permeable. Emotional connections run deep.

What this means for the holidays: If you’re child who has this zodiac on the 4th house is acting out and downright being defiant when it’s time to go to a relatives house or wear another stiff holiday outfit, remember they feel everything!!! They absorb all the relatives energy plus wherever else they have to go. They need sleep and downtime to rest and daydream if interacting with a lot of people. 

Happy Holidays to you and yours! Wishing you joy and cheer this season.

XO, Linawa